It’s that time again! In the middle of winter, when everyone’s likely getting tired of the winter blues then suddenly there’s love in the air. Hues of red and pink, candy hearts and the like. The time when Cupid fires his arrows in all directions. Love it or loath it, Valentine’s Day is here. Many of you are thinking “Oh great, it’s bad enough I got Christmas debt to worry about, now this!” Well don’t worry because you don’t have to plan an extravagant evening out for your sweetheart (unless you really want to). Why not try something less traditional this Valentine’s Day and stop trying to compete with your fellow-man.
This year, I’ve decided that I’m going to cook my girlfriend’s favorite dish. Even though we’ve only recently become a couple, I still want to make her feel special. Since she loves Spanish food, I’m going to cook a stew from Madrid along with Gazpacho soup. I’m no master chef, but luckily I have a Spanish recipe book. It’s simple and won’t cost me a week’s income, and let’s face it women like men who can cook right? Maybe this will work? Maybe not? But it’s the thought that counts and it’s coming from the heart – I’m doing what I think she will appreciate, not what someone else will think is right. So why not try to cook your lovey’s favorite dish, or just cook him/her dinner. During dinner, why not play some of your sweetheart’s favorite music? My girlfriend loves classical, so I intend to play a little Bach and Mozart on my iPod during the meal.
If culinary skills aren’t your thing, why not write a poem for your sweetie. Think of qualities or wonderful things that describe him or her, put it together in poetry and read it out loud for them say before they go off to work. They’ll likely head off in a better mood. Remember, the poem doesn’t have to rhyme, so don’t blow your brains out trying to make every line rhyme.
When your sweetie comes home after a long, hard day at work why not go the extra mile for them. Give them a massage, or just sit with them and hold them, while telling them how much they mean to you – something to make them feel special. Surely they’ll love it! Whatever you choose to do for your valentine, make sure it comes from the heart and not from an outside source. The gift must be real to you because otherwise it won’t be real to your partner.
And for you singles out there dreading this day, I just want to salute and acknowledge you all! I remember being in your shoes for many years. That said, don’t stress yourself to find a date for the sake of Valentine’s Day. Take this day as an opportunity to celebrate being single; do something you enjoy doing for fun. It’s perfectly fine to be without a partner on Valentine’s Day despite what others say. When someone comes to you and says, “What? No date? What’s wrong with you?” Just answer “I’m happy being single. Got a problem?” Keep repeating that if they continue to tease you. Show no fear and they’ll eventually back off because they know they can’t intimidate you.
Happy Valentine’s Day!