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How to deal with a ‘fork in the road’

Decision time


I bet you’ve been in this situation? Perhaps more than you’d like to remember? Whether it was a relationship, a job or school, it must have been difficult to choose. And when you do, you likely wonder what would have happened if you had gone the other way. I’ve faced these a number of times, but there’s been one in which I still regret today. A year ago, I was offered a job teaching English in Spain. It had been a dream of mine, but the school seemed like it was not going to be a good fit. The director of the school even admitted there were discipline issues. I only had a day to decide, and I chose not to take the job, though I regretted it after. I even thought about emailing the school a few hours after the decision to reconsider. Then a voice said to me, “That ship has left the port.” I knew I couldn’t go back, and had to move forward. Worse yet, I had made myself sick worrying about this decision.

These moments can often be the most stressful in our lives. So what do you do when you’re in the shoes of our friend in the picture above. I recommend following these tips:

  • make a list of all of the pros and cons of going in either direction and compare them. You should be able to see which has more pros than cons.
  • seek the advice of people who really understand you, like close friends, family or a partner. Because they know you so well, they may know which choice will be the better one. Here’s a pointer if you can do it, contact one of your favorite high school teachers or college professors for help.
  • Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that can happen if it doesn’t work out?” If the choice is taking a new job or going to a new school, find out if there is a way to get out and go back to where you started. Think of it as setting out to sea, but leaving the anchor planted on the bottom.
  • If you have time to make the decision, do the above then leave it for twenty-four hours, then finally make your choice. The decision-making will be easier once you have considered all the options.
  • Finally, make your decision and don’t look back! Once that ship has sailed, it has sailed. It won’t come back to the port no matter how much you try to get it back. Just move on and embrace the path you have chosen.

No matter which path you take, there will be pros and cons to both. That is life, and you must accept it as your destiny. So choose wisely, but don’t stress yourself the way I did.

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Inaugural Manic Monday


Welcome to my first Manic Monday posting. As you may already know, I’m an author who shares snippets along with helpful tidbits on writing. But I also like to provide words of wisdom to people in general. Since Monday generally represents a day of gloom and misery for a lot of people, I hope that this weekly posting brings some warmth and sunshine to those dreary Mondays.

For me, Monday has always been a prosperous day. For starters, I was actually born on a Monday and have always looked on the brighter side of what has been labelled as the day most people hate. I bet for many of you, the header image is something you can relate to. But worry no more, as it is with hope that I can help brighten your Mondays with some words or stories. I usually look at Mondays as the start of a new week, which means an opportunity to accomplish something new, for example teaching my students new words or phrases. Though like you, I have bad Mondays but when I wake up each Monday morning I try and look at it as a ‘good day’. As Eric Idle once said in a song, “Always look on the bright side of life”. So to you I say, “Always look on the bright side of Monday.”

So if the header image is something you can relate to, I’d like to offer one piece of advice to turn that frown into a smile: recharge. I don’t mean ‘recharge’, by taking a vacation, but rather ‘recharge’ while at the office. When I took an intensive teacher-training course last year, one of the trainers said, “Try and get out for some fresh air during your break.” I tried to do this (though not always possible) during the hour-long lunch break we had. Even today when I’m in between classes, I try to go out for a brief walk, even if it’s freezing or raining. This is something I encourage you to do, even if your break is slightly shorter than an hour.

So what can getting out for some fresh air do for you?

  • clear your mind of any stress from the morning grind
  • listen to your thoughts, without the distractions of phones ringing or chirpy voices
  • rejuvenate your inner self, so you can come back to work with a smile on your face (coworkers and bosses actually like to see this!)
  • EXERCISE – you won’t have to spend as much time at the gym later.

So get out for some fresh air, no matter the weather or the timing. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes. Happy Monday!

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Six Sunday – 9/16/12

Hello it’s #sixsunday ! It’s simple – pick six sentences from any work of writing, post it to your blog/website and enjoy the fun. I hope you’re bracing yourselves for fall. If not, I’ll be posting a little article on my site about making the most of fall, so be sure follow my blog. We continue right from my previous six. Cammy starts it off by putting Ryan on the spot with some bizarre questions. You’ll get more of a sense about Cammy’s character. And yes, she does act like this and does say this kind of stuff! So here it is and thanks in advance for taking the time to read my six and for your comments.

“Lemmie ask ya somethin’, do your professors thank ya for bein’ on time?”

Ryan winced as if to say ‘Seriously?’

“Just answer me!” she barked.

“OK! No, they don’t.”

“Do ya get a bonus for bein’ on time for work?”

He simply shook his head, knowing that arguing with her would only make things worse.

For more snippets, visit Six Sunday.

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